Don’t take your mistakes personal! Your mistakes are not you! A huge confidence killer is believing that you and your mistakes are one. It’s just another way of counting yourself out, and committing to self doubt! What I mean is, with your attempts in life,you may encounter a few mistakes along the way and miss your targets. The worst thing to do is create a “I’m hopeless attitude” towards your future endeavors. NEWS FLASH: You will make some wrong turns along the way, and end up at a few dead ends. Regardless your past mistakes and wrong judgment calls are not you!
Learning to separate your failures and mistakes from you, will make all of the difference in your life!
If a person failed at a business, should he/she not dust himself/herself off and try again? If shooting a shot proves to be unsuccessful should a child never pick up a basketball again? Why people associate themselves with their past failures, if their goal is to succeed? It doesn’t make any sense, yet millions of people live by this self destructing belief system!
If a child falls of off a bike, because he is learning how to ride for the first time. Do you encourage him to continue to ride, or do you tell him you are always going to fall, you were born to fall at everything… so get used to it!
Despite how many times you’ve missed, screwed up, fell, and failed. It’s not you! It’s a situation in your life. Continue to be optimistic about your future! No matter how many times you’ve lost, continue to believe you are a winner!
Never let an event outside of you, determine who you are inside!
Action: Separate your mistakes and failures from you!
Your circle of friends will either make you or break you! Your friends are the people whom you are the closest to, and have the most influence over your decisions. Their opinions matter and their advice is valued. (At least it should be)
Their activities and experiences away from you, also affects your life. If your friends spend the majority of their time traveling the world, and visiting new places. Their conversations will probably consist of places they’ve visited, landmarks viewed, different cultures, and the amazing people they’ve encountered. Which will broaden your perspective, enlighten and add value to your life.
What would you be able to get from your friends if they didn’t aspire to reach any further than their arm’s length? What will you learn from a person that hasn’t experienced anything? Laughter and past memories plays a part of a conversation, yet shouldn’t be the basis and topic of your talk every time you get together. Your network of friends should be people you can learn from and grow with. If you are the smartest person you are around how will that benefit you overall? What will happen when you need answers, solutions and a way out? Who or where do you run to? When you pick your friends you are ultimately picking your destiny
This is the reason why fraternities are very popular, because they allow you to tap into a network of people that are active in all walks of life. Country clubs are the same. Country clubs can be very expensive, yet you are tapping into a network of individuals that are usually out performing the average person. The ability to tap into a group of individuals who are successful in all walks of life, is amazing to say the least.
What type of individuals would you like to tap into? What are some things you would love to learn? Take some time and think of some of the characteristic traits that you’ve picked up from your friends, good and bad? How has those traits helped you or hurt you. Be totally honest with yourself it’s your life!
I once read a billboard that read:
Small minds talk about people.
Average minds discuss events.
Great minds create ideas!
Action: Join a meetup in your area and meet new people. www.meetup.com
How have you grown in the last five years? What have you learned and applied to your life? Creating great goals is one thing, but have you hit your targets within the last five years? What were some of your habits that helped you or hurt you? Many of us live our routine lives never taking time to analyze our decisions along with their outcomes. For most people looking back on their past experiences and being honest with themselves about their progress, is like opening up bills. You know the bills are there, you have to pay them yet it’s painful to face them.
Look back on your life!
If you aren’t happy with the last 5 years of your life then make a change for the next 5 years of your life. Often, people never sit down and ask themselves am I happy with my current results out of life? Experiencing the pain of an honest answer, is far too much for so many people to deal with. Facing the pain also serves as a huge motivator in making the next years of your life much more productive. Remember it’s our natural instinct to move away from pain, and looking back on unfruitful years is very a painful dish to stomach. The difference in the next five years starts with your habits that are created now. The habits you create right now will shape the life you live tomorrow!
It is needed go back to the drawing board and create a new plan. Write down your expectations for yourself and where you’d like to be in the upcoming years. What will change in the next 5 years to come from the last 5 years? What will you do different? What habits will you replace? What will you replace them with? What is your commitment level?
Take your life serious and all the decisions that come along with it! Move progressively, and take no shorts! Write your goals and your mission statement in permeate ink! Don’t bend down to listen and understand the world, make the world step up to you! You have one life to get it right, value it! Don’t rely on tomorrow’s change when there is a day in front of you right now! Stay far from the complainers they will offer no value to your life, and their weakness is contagious.
Stay up and stay strong!
Action: Analyze your last five years and create habits for your next five years
Most of us all desire to become good or great in at least one area of our life. Some people may desire to become great in many areas of their lives. Regardless of your natural skill level or your inherent ability to perform in your gifted field. Practicing gives you the confidence, mental clarity, and edge to make yourself victorious. It’s all mental! Practicing means Pre-Action, it’s the preparation of taking action, by taking action.
It’s your preparation before it’s time to take action that gives you the advantage. Pre-Action allows you to rehearse your steps, time your moves and fine tune your presentations. Sure you can try and wing it, but you are not giving yourself the best opportunity to be as successful. Confidence comes by doing. With whatever you are pursing become familiar with it’s process, by doing it over and over again.
Get the Kinks out!
Through repetition (practicing) and by applying concentrated energy you will get all of your kinks out! An iron works the same way! Concentrated heat applied to garments gets the wrinkles out. Whatever your profession spend some time and work on your craft, and sharpen your skills. Does a play get to Broadway without first practicing and rehearsing? Is an effective speech ever made without the speaker first knowing the highs and lows of their conversation with the audience? Practice to become great, you can’t wing greatness!
Most people do not like to spend time practicing because they view it as “non compensated work”. That type of thought process will never render you, your best results. With any person that has accomplished a great deal, practicing has been their little kept secret! Any great speech, play, movie, and song, has first been prepared and practiced before delivered and heart felt by the masses. Once your pre-action is down packed, the rest is a walk in the park.
How do you respond when a person says, hi or good morning. Why? Because people respond to your energy and enthusiasm. People are listening to every word you say.
1.Good morning how are you doing?
I’m Great! How are you?
2.Good morning how are you doing?
Ahh… tired it’s raining outside, but I’m here.
Who would you respond to? Which person would you engage in a conversation with? The person that’s great or the person who wishes he/she was still in his/her bed! The person that feels great of course. Why? Because his/her energy makes a difference in your day. The words you say , the energy you project carries an emotional feeling within it.
Try it! Ask 10 people how are you or good afternoon, and notice what type of response you get. You can take it a step further and change the mood of the conversation by either raising your energy if they are low, or lowering your energy if the are animated. Notice how your energy will change the mood of the conversation.
Your words have power?
Within a few seconds you are able to know what type of person you are dealing with and what type of mood they’re in. All from their opening statements to you. Don’t be a person who just talks to talks, everything you say should be meaningful to you. If you create the habit of pointless babbling, you will also create the habit pointless thinking! Your mind and tongue work together, add powerful teachings and thoughts to your mind and you will convey power, sureness and confidence when you speak to others. Your mind is a great tool and your mouth is it’s greatest outlet. Use these great tools to your advantage everyday. Remember your words are able to make others believe in you, follow and help you. Make sure you are weeding out the thoughts and words that are making people do the exact opposite.
Trends and fads can be very lucrative to anyone looking to make money, especially if you get in front of them before the masses catch on. Yet so many people miss the opportunities to capitalize, and once missed people often find themselves at the starting point looking for the next “great opportunity” all over again. Usually the time to buy into that good company with a great product, is way before CNBC reports it!
The whole world is in search of the next big trend. People are constantly following the wagon, instead of driving their own. Build your confidence and become the next sought after trend everyone including yourself is in search of! Become the commodity, new invention, hot stock pick, and huge payday, you greatly desire.
When you hear of the success of another person, it’s not a green light for you to follow them and abandon your ship. What are your visions? Your visions aren’t for anyone else, just as someone’s vision is not for you. Just because you know of someone who is having a lot of success in a particular field it doesn’t mean you will perform the same. We all love the idea of working a business with other people sharing in the same vision, but it rarely happens that way. People rarely pioneer, yet love to follow. You have to look inside, belief in yourself, then people will follow you.
If I have friends that are very successful in real estate does that mean the same will happen for me? It could be a great indicator that I will get some insight on how to get things done, yet it doesn’t mean I will perform the same as my peers. Everything is not meant for you! You weren’t made to become the second person to reach the top of Mt.Everest, you were made the to be the first person who __________________ (fill in your blank). Even if the closest people to you don’t support your vision, forget them. Look inside, build your confidence, and set off on your journey.
Everything worth having is worth working for! The journey to success starts with one step at a time. There will be a lot of endless nights and stressful days. Hunger pains and headaches. Days of doubt and nights of frustration. But continue to push forward until you get a breakthrough. The road isn’t easier, yet its much more fulfilling!
Action: Stay away from get rich quick ideas. Your big break is within you!
Is a old Negro spiritual that is still sung throughout the country by many Americans of all different races. This song is very simple in it’s words, yet it’s consistent message is very empowering. It’s a song of hope, and it’s subliminal message, is that we all have a “light” to shine! The reason many people love the words and relate to the song is simply, because we recognize there is a light inside of us.
Either you are allowing your light to shine or you aren’t. Regardless of what you are doing with your light whether it’s active or dormant, it exist within you! Your light is all you have, everything else is really nonexistent.You don’t really have a car, live in a home or wear nice clothes. You are energy, a spirit enclosed in a body. Your spirit has desires, to achieve it’s purpose and fulfill it’s greatest desire.
There is a story of a servant and a king. One day the king sent the servant to a foreign land to perform a specific task. The servant was picked because he had many abilities and talents. The king had confidence in the servant’s ability to accomplish the specific task. As the servant traveled to his destination, he helped many people, throughout the different lands he passed. He preformed a thousand task throughout his journey, and received tons of praise for all of his efforts, yet he was unable to complete the task he was sent for. When he returned he had a great smile across his face. The king asked him did he complete the specific task he was sent for. The servant replied, no, but along the way I performed over a thousand task in your name. The king replied, You did many things, yet every task you completed along the way means nothing if you didn’t do the one thing you were sent for. If you were sent on a mission and you did everything except your purpose for the mission, should you be rewarded by the king?
If you lived a “good life” and accomplish many task along the way without ever touching your purpose, never allowing your light to shine, never accomplishing your mission. Wouldn’t your journey be meaningless?
Your light= passion and purpose
When we tap into our light, it injects life within us. It’s a true feeling of being alive, free and limitless. Have you ever felt totally free, powerful, and fulfilled? If so what were you doing? The chances are you were tapping into your light.
It’s unfortunate to say, yet many people’s lights have dimmed and died out. People have given up on their dreams only to bargain, for a life full of complacency. People become very bitter and despondent towards life after they have allowed their “light” to die out. So the goal is to never allow your light to die. Keep your hope light lit, and never live in despair.
Are you listening to that small voice inside, or are you conforming to what the world believes you should be? Do you come up with excuses or results? Are you reading this as something to read, or are you looking for the seed of change within it’s message?
We all get signs, instructions and directions along the highways of life, are you using them? There is a course that has already been predestined for your life, are you following your plan? People try to dress up their exterior, join social clubs, abuse alcohol and drugs, all to avoid themselves. Are you one of them? We live in a world where people take on an identity instead of discovering their own identity!
People are wearing uniforms! Conforming, blending in, without any unique distinction. Your next door neighbors were to afraid to explore themselves, afraid to step out on faith, afraid to follow his/her directions, afraid to live… so they settled!!! Settled for what… one vacation a year with a 30 year fixed mortgage and bills until their number is called? That’s not life! No wonder there are so many diseases, and miserable people. The life as a conformist is unfulfillable!
Hoping their kids will do better. All to have the cycle repeated. Change starts with you! Stop trying to pass the baton without you running your leg first! Most parents live in the fairly tale world “Hopefully my kids won’t have to struggle the way I did”. Well it first starts with you, it’s what you live that is instilled in a child, not what you say! Don’t hope your child will do better, become your child’s greatest example. Live a life of confidence, take risk, speak up, live by faith, don’t socialize with the naysayers, take action, make goals for your kids to see, live by integrity, persist, persevere, strive, and grow. Encourage your child to pick his/her own clothes, by you removing your uniform.
Your uniform isn’t in the clothes, it’s in the mind!
Action: Discover your identity! YES! It takes a lot of energy and time, aren’t you worth it?
Well… it’s been 12 days I’ve been without chicken, turkey, beef and pork. My goal is to stay away from meat for a month, but I think this is something I can get use to for a long time. I have to say I still enjoy fish, and I don’t think I will give that up any time soon.
My reasons for giving up meat, is simply change! I wanted to eat healthier, challenge myself, and I began to feel like the meat was weighing my spirit down. I have to say I feel great! I don’t miss and I’m not tempted to go into the cookie jar.
I started to realize many of us go after success and achievements so much we tend to forget about our bodies in the process. Taking care of your body should be a top priority. Eating healthy, daily exercise and juicing.
I was listening to a guy called Dr. Afrika and he said something that made a lot of sense. He said ” If you sit down eat the wrong foods and gain weight, you should be able to sit down eat the right foods and lose weight.” Which made total sense to me, we shouldn’t look towards exercise as our savior for losing weight. Correct eating should be! A few extra pounds a clear indicator that our food isn’t in line with our body’s essential needs. Sure it’s hard to find the “healthy selections” in our local supermarkets, healthy eating is much more expensive, and most people don’t know where to start. Despite all of the excuses we can come up with, there is one thing to be remembered. It’s your body… cherish it!
Would you buy a racing dog and feed him cheeseburgers? Would you buy beautiful salt water fish and feed them cat food? No! So why treat your body that way, don’t you value your body more than a pedigree or a eye captivating fish?
“Eating to live, not living to eat” is my new outlook!
Action: Cut out three things in your diet that isn’t the healthiest for you, and replace it with a healthy substitute.
With so many thoughts that enter into our minds, we have to make sure we are constantly reaffirming our most desired thoughts. What do you want? What type of person do you want to be? What qualities do you want to develop? Everything you want, start speaking it into your life.
Make a list of your affirmations and create a vision for each one. Each time you read and affirm your desires, your vision will become much more clearer. Through repetition eventually your vision will start to take on a life of it’s own. Fuel your vision with strong emotion and get results.
Example: I am a great guitar player!
Vision: Imagine yourself playing in front of crowds of people. Imagine thoughts of joyful expressions on thousands of people’s faces.
Strong Emotion: Feel the emotions you will have once your goal is accomplished. Whether it’s happy, fulfilled, contented, pleased, glad, joyful, cheerful, blissful, exultant, ecstatic, delighted, cheery, jovial, in high spirits, on cloud nine. Feel these feelings every time you vision your desires.
Repeat throughout the day, everyday until you have reached your goals.
Don’t try it, do it!
Your desires will start to take a life of their own and create a presence in your life!
Actions: Make your affirmations and design your life!
